Welcome! This site is dedicated to celebrating and inspiring couples who cook. There’s something deeply satisfying about cooking together. It’s one of the most basic expressions of love and the perfect activity for building meaningful relationships.
We know from our own personal experience that the shared preparation and enjoyment of meals can bring you and your partner together in many ways.
When Justin and I first met, neither one of us were particularly good cooks. We shared a love of food and a desire to experiment with different recipes and ingredients. Cooking-in versus dining-out became our date of choice.
I learned about him - he's an improvisational cook and way-too-good of a bartender. He learned about me - I like to follow recipe directions and nurse a hangover with processed cheese sauce. I introduced him to The Godfather. He showed me Blue Velvet. We both love a spicy Bloody Mary. Ours was a love affair created over many dinners and a few cooking disasters.
The kitchen has had a transformative power on our own relationship and blogging has given us a way to share that with others. We know first hand that when you cook together, good things can happen. Sexy things can happen. Tasty, yummy, delicious things can happen. Disasters and pizza delivery can happen. But whatever happens in the kitchen, it will be happening together.
As the Gastronomic Duo our goal is to provide inspired and inspiring content – through original recipes, by offering ideas that have worked in our relationship and our cooking, and by celebrating other couples who share the kitchen.
One of our most popular features is Gastrophiles, our profiles of cooking couples. To help you get to know us better, we decided to turn the tables on ourselves by answering our most savory questions.
Who’s the Alpha cook?
Lori: I think early in our relationship, it was me. Not because I was a better cook, but because I was more focused on meal planning. I was the one deciding what we should make or new dish we should try. But obviously after you went to culinary school and started working in restaurants that all changed. Your skills far surpassed mine and now I think you’re clearly the alpha cook in our kitchen.
Justin: It’s interesting. Because I think I’m the alpha chef, but I think you’re the alpha taster. You have a huge influence on what we cook and why I want to cook good food.
Lori: “Alpha taster” sounded a little risqué – I’m glad you explained yourself.
What have you learned about each other through cooking?
Lori: If I make something once and I like it, I want to recreate it. You want to make it different every single time.
Justin: Have you learned anything about me?
Lori: You’re more improvisational and more willing to go off the grid.
Justin: Off the grid – that’s me!
Lori: The other thing – is you love to season.
Justin: Lesson one – season your food. Lesson two – stop seasoning your food.
Lori: Ha ha! You do love salt. Also, the more that we entertain, the more that I notice how much you enjoy sharing your knowledge and passion of food with others. You love to involve people in the process of cooking. It’s never a solo act for you.
Justin: I really do want to teach people how to make food and to care about where their food comes from. I am passionate about food, sometimes to the point where it alienates me, because I have strong opinions and I’m not afraid to share them.
Can you actually taste it when food is made with love?
Justin: Yes. That’s the difference between good food and not good food. Food made with love has intent put into it. It’s cared for. It’s not just about sustenance or just about enjoyment. It’s about both. I absolutely think love is detectable in food.
What’s your cooking philosophy?
Justin: it’s almost cliché – keep it simple and taste your food. Nature created the food. It’s already perfect, so don’t mess it up. “Made with love” doesn’t start when you put food in a pan, it starts when you buy that food and with the choices you make.
Lori: I think the only thing I would add, is in response to some feedback we’ve gotten about our blog. People think we cook this way every night. And the reality is, like any couple, there are nights we have to divide and conquer. There are nights when we are just too tired and we order take out. We don’t have an unrealistic expectation that people are going to cook meals together every night of the week. That’s just not life. It’s more about – instead of going out to eat, or rather than having one person always make the meals – make it a shared event. Once a week would be a great thing for relationships.
What’s the secret ingredient to keeping your relationship cooking?
Justin: For me, the secret to keeping our relationship cooking is innuendo. I’m always flirting with you.
Lori: You are always making a move!
Justin: Just with you.
Lori: Right, good clarification.
Justin: If you asked the question, “what are the secret ingredients to our relationship,” I’d say unconditional love and trust. It’s like a good stock. You can’t have a good stock without carrot and onion. Our carrot and onion is unconditional love and trust.
We believe that cooking together = fun, sexy, deepen your relationship time. We hope you join us.
--Jd & Lo--